In October of 2015 my 69 year old mum was diagnosed with Terminal cancer – and in November of the same year I was diagnosed with Breast cancer. On 23rd December same year it was confirmed after various scans and biopsies that my cancer was in fact real. On 29th January 2016 I under went a double mastectomy and was lucky that it hadn’t travelled into my lymph nodes so treatment was not necessary, however I cannot believe what effect it has had on my life and my relationship. My mother died in August of 2016 – 9 days before her 70th birthday, I have struggled on and off since then with depression and having had counselling I feel I still have lots to come to terms with, all the firsts are difficult in relation to mums death but Im angry with CANCER.., why is it so unfair ?
Hi Debbie, Than you for your message and welcome to CancerChatNZ. I’m sorry you’re having such a tough time. You’ve had a lot to deal with in a short period of time and it sounds quite overwhelming.Even though you didn’t need further treatment after surgery just the diagnosis of cancer itself can have a huge impact on your life. I wonder if you’ve found any support groups – sometimes meeting others going through a similar experience can be helpful. I hope you may get some replies from others here and you are also welcome to call us – the nurses on the Cancer Helpline 0800 CANCER (226 237).